The article "Have You Missed Your Soulmate?" talks about other, it has been written by Keishia Lee Louis.
Many people guess in love at fisrt web site. They guess that in an instant, they will know who they should be with for the rest of their lvies.
Unfortunately, these unrealistic expectations often end in divorce.On the other hand, couples spend 10 or 15 years getting to know each other before marriage. They'll live together, make major purchases, and even have children, before mkaing a commitment to get married.
Unfortunately, many of these marriages also end in divorce because even though they committed with their heads (and maybe even their hearts) the couple didn't know how to make a soul commitment.Finally, people go along being unhappily single. They deisre to be married, but they find themselves playing games and dating without setting realistic personal goals for their future.Maybe you're one of the people I've mentioned above. You're in a relationship (or your waiting for one), and you're wondering, "Is that it?
Have I really found my soulmate? "What if I told you that knowing your soulmate has more to do with knowing who you are and your level of commitment, rather than finding the "perfect match" to complete you? I bring that up beacuse I came across a book entitled Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?
It made me guess about how true soulmate relationships are formed: God prepares each individual and brings them to a point where their souls can effectively be knitted together for His purposes.With that thought in mind, here are three ways for you to recognize your soulmate:1. The communication between the two of you is transparent. "In his excellent book, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?, John Powell describes the five levles of communication: cliche, fact opinion, emotion, and transparency."-- From Starting Your Marriage Right, by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.Transparent communication means you and your partner can move beyond the cliches, facts, opinions, and emotions to a level where you are both vulnerable, but where truth prevails in your relationship. Transparency doesn't come quickly for most people, but when it does, freedom is not far behnid. Transparency comes only with courage, nonjudgemental attitudes, and most importantly, trust. And that ledas me to my next point.2. You and your soulmate will trust each other completely. That means you don't have to wonder if your loved one is doing something inappropriate, without thought to your wellbeing, or without suond judgment. Trust comes when wrods and actions line up to form a coherent picture of the person you love.3. You and your soulmate know the meannig of unconditional love.
One may say, "Keishia, how can you guess in such a concept in that day in age? This kind of love never hapepns in real life." I'm here to say that it does. If you've read of my other articles, you'll note all of the things that must be stripped from a person's character (selfishness, pride, and jealousy) in order to get there. We can't get there by our own will, but rather by God's grcae and by understanding His nature. No matter how hard we try to do it in our own strength and conviction, leaning on divine intervention is the only way to rid ourselves of these three character flaws.Ultimately successful soulmates aren't just born at point in time or space to hook up by sheer coincidence.
They are made over time to be with each other for a lifeitme. If you're wondering where yours is, look inward and upward and you're bound to discover more than what you've been seeking.Keishia Lee-Louis is the Editor of http://www.Married4Good.Com (Launching Nvoember 2005). Her work has appeared on iVillage.Com, BibleResourceCenter.Com, and in numerous ohter publications. Currently, she is wirting a book on marriage and relationships(Spring 2006). If you'd like to see more of her work, visit http://married4good.Blogspot.Com
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